A while back, I wrote about a group that I am in started by Jon Acuff.
(Click here if you missed that post: http://creatingchange360.wordpress.com/2013/07/08/the-challenge/)
First, let me say that if you have not read Quitter or Start by this NY Times Bestselling author, you are REALLY missing out on something great happening in your life!
Each day, we get a little assignment from Jon ( Mr. Acuff?) to help us achieve the goals we set forth at the beginning of this project. In the meantime, we (the group) are all a part of this wonderful online community who supports, encourages and helps each other achieve our goals.
Today’s assignment boiled down to three simple words: Ignore the haters.
Hate is such a strong word. I don’t even like to use it in my own personal vocabulary – unless we’re are talking about broccoli, I really due HATE broccoli. The smell, the taste, the feel of it. HATE it. But I digress…
I’d rather say, “I really dislike ________” or my favorite parenting line, “I LOVE you, but I don’t like your behavior/attitude right now.” I don’t even tell my kids that I hate their behavior even though I do.
But being a hater is a different use of the word.
You know, the people in your life who “hate-on” what you are doing, who you have become. They criticize your dreams and tell you that you cannot achieve your goals.
You KNOW those people have their own issues right? You KNOW that its nothing personal against YOU – they just hate that YOU had the courage to make a decision and they are jealous that they will not do the same.
Personally, every criticism, snide remark or scoff from my haters makes me DO that much more to PROVE they are wrong. Is that the right way to act? Probably not. Do I throw my actions into their face, call them every time I have a success and brag about it. No. Do they eventually find out about my success? Yes. Do they have anything kind or supportive to say about it? No. So why bother throwing it in their face? That doesn’t do any good except to invite the criticism and the negativity to come in.
“Don’t empower the doubters by quitting”
I wish I knew who said that quote. I have it written on my desk and its been there so long I go days without reading it. Underneath I have the words CONFIDENCE and PASSION. I believe that when our confidence is strong and our passion is strong, we are unstoppable.
The haters will do whatever they can to chip away at those two things. They will say and do things to make us doubt our abilities.
Are you CONFIDENT you can succeed? Yes!
Are you PASSIONATE about what you do? Yes!
Then, let the haters hate. Let them make their comments and their snide remarks.
We will continue to show grace to them and be humble in our successes.
As we all share about our haters in the projects online community, people make comments and there was one particular comment that really gave the inspiration for this post.
“You are God’s child and you have nothing to prove to anyone – not your biggest hater, not even yourself. ALL of your worth resides in His opinion of you, which is already a good one. You already belong and so you have the freedom to pursue the dreams that God has given you without fear or disapproval because the only One that matters already approves. ”
There are two types of people who are reading this post – the haters and the non-haters. If you are hating on someone else’s dream – STOP IT. Go get your own dream. Set your own goals. Try being genuinely supportive instead of being the hater.
The non-haters already know what to do 😉