The word TEAM does not have “I” in it.
The Quarterback doesn’t win a football game by himself.
A golfer doesn’t win a Championship by themselves.
Teams win and golfers win because –
Everyone is in the same boat and rowing in the same direction at the same time.
Everyone in the boat knows which direction the boat has to go AND everyone is working together to make sure the boat gets to the right destination. No one in the boat is throwing out the anchor during forward progress or drilling holes.
Is the same true with your finances? Is everyone in your family – your spouse, your kids, other family members – all working together to meet financial goals?
Regardless of your answer, the following information will be helpful to you or someone you know.
Using the analogy of the boat, let’s say that the person (probably you since you are reading this) that is wanting to improve the financial situation is the captain. The people you are going to choose to be on your crew fit into one of two categories:
The crew and the passengers.
The crew are the people who want to go where the boat is going AND will work hard to make sure the boat stays the course. The passengers are, quite literally, the ones along for the ride.
Years ago, I decided to captain a boat to Debt Free Land. For a few years, I was the only captain and my husband and kids were along for the ride. Visualize being in a boat where you cannot see the opposite shore – that’s where we started. How did I get my husband and my kids to be passengers to a place they couldn’t see?
I told them it was important to ME for them to come. That I did not want to go alone. That we so desperately needed to go to Debt Free Land. The problem was that we weren’t exactly sure how we were going to get there so while the kids didn’t really have a choice, my husband was a bit reluctant. HOWEVER, he got on the boat because he knew I needed him with me.
I also made sure that he was a passenger, and not part of the crew in charge of the anchor!!!
It’s important to note here that my reason for wanted to go to Debt Free Land and my husbands reason for wanting to go were very different. That was fine, though because we were all on the same boat, headed in the same direction.
It wasn’t until the shoreline of Debt Free Land was in sight that my husband became part of the crew. He had to SEE that we had made forward progress in our journey – consistent forward progress. I did this by showing him how we were following the budget ( the map ) and paying off debt ( forward progress ). Additionally, I acknowledge his reasons for going to Debt Free Land so that he was encouraged to be part of the crew and help. With BOTH of us guiding the boat, the boat went faster and, yes, we eventually landed at Debt Free Land.
Once you decide to make a change, you have to get people IN the boat by whatever means necessary. YOU decide if they will help captain, be part of the crew or just go along for the ride. THEY have to decide to get in the boat! What if they don’t? Give them a compelling reason.
If that doesn’t work? You need some outside help – contact me and I’ll help make sure everyone gets in the boat with you AND even help assign them to the crew or a passenger seat.
And just so you know, Debt Free Land is a beautiful place with more opportunities that we could have ever, ever imagined! I’m glad we are all here together!