I feel like last week was our “free trial” run and this week is when we need to make a decision about establishing routine and rhythm.
Regardless of how you live and work and manage your day to day, there is some sort of routine and rhythm.
For most of us, any sense of that which we had is disrupted.
For me, I tried to make sense and order of the chaos as soon as possible.
This helped my brain process. I took control of what I could control.
And yet, things were changing so fast and I had my kids home so it didn’t go as well as planned.
Last week – week one of the shutdown – I had a schedule for Monday and Tuesday that we followed and made adjustments throughout the day as needed.
By Wednesday, my brain hurt from the mental load so we took the day off, sort of. We went out to do some errands – not involving human contact and then walked the waterfront in our town. We ordered out lunch, came home and the boys had free time the rest of the day. It was a much-needed break for all of us!
I allowed my older son to make the schedule for Thursday – at his request – and YES it took ALOT for me to have him take over MY process of making sense of the order. But, I realized, that he needed to make sense of HIS chaos too and making the schedule helped him. Our younger son took over the schedule for Friday.
I spent Saturday morning outside in our backyard – AKA My Happy Place. I LOVE being in our backyard, which we are still cleaning up from the aftermath of Hurricane Florence (our pond flooded the entire backyard).
I went out at sunrise, built a fire, cleaned out two of the garden boxes.
Fire. Water. Sunrise. Birds singing. Quiet and peaceful.
I asked my husband to take the boys out of the house on Saturday so they took some things to the dump and picked up the online grocery order.
I just needed to be alone in the house for a little while. I’m used to being home alone and I LOVE it. I missed it. I needed that time.
Again, it was quiet, I got some work done and some peace.
That’s the thing for me right now, finding ways to find some peace and quiet. And yes, I know that this is hard. And yes, I know that I am grateful to have an understanding husband who knows that my suggestion of taking the boys on a drive to the dump and picking up groceries is really my request that I need to be home alone.
Throughout this process, here are some lessons I’ve learned:
1. Keep calm. I’m totally teaching by example here. The boys are old enough to know what’s going on around them and they are also going through some of the same emotions.
2. Google and Youtube are my new best friends. I have to learn how to set up different technology now that we are all home.
3. Amazon REALLY does sell everything we need/want.
4. Communicate, often. If you don’t speak up and tell people what you need/want, then you have yourself to blame for not getting what you need.
5. We are moving closer to routines and rhythms than we were a week ago. We CAN figure this out.
So, what does our new routine and rhythm look like?
Starting today – Monday, March 23rd – I will be doing Coffee with Coach through Facebook live on my business Facebook page, Melissa the Coach.
I’ll teach on a topic and take Q&A. I’ll post my phone number so you can text me questions if you don’t want to put them in the comments.
This will happen every M, W, F at 8 am EST. If you have a topic you’d like me to teach about, please let me know!
I also created a daily schedule. Based on what I learned last week from having to create one. I just use a giant whiteboard that we already had – this saves paper and helps to make adjustments throughout the day.
I’m still planning our #unexpectedhomeschool day-to-day but I think I can get into a schedule that looks like:
7am-9am Business work
9am-10am Outside time/daily jobs (cleaning, etc)
10am-11am School work/learning
11am-12pm Home EC something and a board game
12pm-1pm Lunch and TV time
( also, make any adjustments for the afternoon)
1pm-2pm Outside/Free time/board game, etc with the boys
(i.e. NON screen time)
2pm-3pm Business/Work/Mom’s Free Time
Boys quiet time ( legos, read, etc in their room)
3pm-4pm Business/Work/Moms Free Time
Boys quiet time ( legos, read, etc in their room)
4pm-5pm School work/Learning
5pm-6pm Dinner prep/eat/clean
6pm-7pm Outside time
7pm-8pm Bed prep and lights out by 8pm
For me, it helps that we do the same thing at the same time every day but just switch the activities. Just like the kids do in school – they have math every day, they just learn a new concept.
The boys’ teachers have been great about sending work for the boys to do.
We are also utilizing all the FREE resources:
1 pm EST $5 Dinners Cooking with Kids (FB Live)
3 pm EST Cincinnati Zoo animal spotlight.
While these times don’t exactly fit into our schedule, the replay is always available.
I’ve also created a saved folder on Facebook for all the resources. I just click and save. I’ll go through the folder eventually and find more resources that work for us. This will be great for switching up activities!
I’ve roughly planned out the week, too, just so I can help my brain. Currently, the plan is to do the same schedule tomorrow, have “Field Day” (i.e deep cleaning the boys’ rooms) on Wednesday, my oldest will do the schedule for Thursday and my youngest will do the schedule for Friday.
I’ll see how it goes, make adjustments accordingly and let you know!
How are you coping with routines and rhythms? Did you make a schedule?
I’d love to know what you are doing during social distancing – who knows, maybe I’ll even share it to help others!