Moving from one phase to another.
Around Mid-March, most of us were forced into transition.
Time stood still – or so it seemed. Life as we knew it came to a crashing, sudden halt. Abruptly.
And, we adjusted. Begrudgingly. And, most of us moved through some stages of grief in the process, but we did it.
We made it through over two months of shelter-in-place or some form of restricted lifestyle.
And here we are again, going through a transition from the end of May into the beginning of June.
Transitioning from Spring to Summer.
Transitioning from the end of unexpected homeschool to summer break, without really knowing what school will look like in the late summer, early fall.
We’ll deal with that when it gets here, right?
In the meantime, we reflect on the lessons learned, the different life we have led during shelter in place and look forward to the days ahead.
Knowing that we have learned many lessons over the last 10-ish weeks.
What have you learned about yourself?
What do you wish you had known prior to shelter-in-place?
What did you do that you haven’t done before? #quarantineproject
I learned that I can adapt to my life being turned upside down. I’ve had to do it before but not at this level. I “leveled up” in crisis management and learned that I can survive amidst the chaos!
(Maybe one day I’ll write a “Top Ten Confessions of a Type A” – LOL!)
I wish I had known more about how to homeschool kids. Getting thrown into unexpected homeschool without any prior experience or knowledge was jarring to say the list. Thankfully I have a list of friends and family who are pros at homeschooling and then helped me understand then even they have the very best of plans messed up and it’s OK.
I learned that I also don’t like homeschool. My boys need to be with their own people (i.e. other teenagers) and with teachers who have more knowledge, time, and patience than I do.
During quarantine, we worked on quite a few projects. I guarantee that these are NOT projects we would have taken on if we still lived our pre-COVID19 lives. One was even a little unexpected – I happened to be outside one day when my neighbor got a delivery. on a pallet. I asked if I could have the pallet, he agreed and asked, “What are you going to do with it?”
A project, I replied! I don’t know what yet, but I’ll think of something!
And then, my friend “google” and I spent some time brainstorming Pallet Projects. I decided that I probably had enough materials to build a box or two that would fit under our TV cabinet.
This was a PROCESS ( I’ll write up an additional blog post about it) but it turned out GREAT!
I also started a porch garden from scraps – I NEVER would have had the time or patience for that but my little experiment has expanded to propagating crepe myrtle branches (not shown in picture).
Mostly, quarantine provided forced rest.
Without the ability to go anywhere, I had A LOT of time on my hands, and truth be told, I’m not good at resting. I always have to busy – doing something. I had gotten into a rut of scheduling to be busy. Yes, I know I run a household and two businesses, have a social life, and love to volunteer but at the same time, that can be exhausting.
It’s like a double-edged sword, right?
I love all those things but its exhausting – mentally and physically.
Quarantine helped me realize that I need that time to rest.
Not just physically, but mentally.
Mental Load is a real thing. I think ALL the things ALL the time and make thousands of decisions a day. Some are fat, but some I have to think about. Constantly.
Mental load, stress, anxiety – I saw ALL of that increase dramatically, especially in the first few weeks of shelter-in-place.
Most of us literally had our lives and livelihoods and schedules just explode in our faces and it happened fast – almost without warning.
It was unexpected and for a lot of people felt like they were knocked down at the knees, shook upside down and then right back up again. It took some time to regain our “balance” and think straight.
And yet, we transitioned.
Communities came together.
Families came together.
People learned a new and different way of doing things because we were forced to. And isn’t forced change the hardest to adapt to?
There was hardly time to think about transition – we just had to do it.
And yet, we did it. And hopefully, learned that was forcibly removed from our lives was maybe necessary? Maybe there is something we will NOT go back to? Have you thought about what you were doing before COVID19 that you don’t really miss? Maybe that’s something that you don’t return to as we transition.
Here we are, at the end of May and we are slowly and in phases, transitioning to what?
There is no longer “back to normal”.
What do we call it then?
“A constant state of transitioning”
Yes, I think that’s it. I think that’s how its going to be for the next several months, probably longer. It’s going to just be a constant state of different directives depending on the situation with COVID-19.
Transition. Change. Move.
That’s going to be the theme of the next several months.
So many of us have such a hard time with any type of change, let alone that which is forced upon us.
I mean, yes, in a way we have a choice, but do we really?
Not in the age of social media we don’t.
We’ll be tried and judged by “our peers” in a heartbeat foe anything we say or do that is not right in their opinion. So , what do we do? The best we can. What we feel is right. We don’t give in to fear and hate.
That’s “stinkin’ thinkin’” as the saying goes. And THAT isn’t good for our mental health.
Seasons change and we transition. If we think of shelter-in-place as a season, we know that we need to move from that to something else. And, it’s going to take time. Everything happens in it’s right season and in the right time.
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Ecclesiastes 3:1
To transition means to move, to change. If we’ve been stuck for several weeks not knowing what to do, now is the time to take action. Now is the time to get evaluate our lives and “start over” per se.
A new season is starting. It’s time to go. Go – live the life you’ve imagined.